When I speak to people about emotional healing, and share parts of my own journey with them, the topic of the relationship that we have with our inner child surfaces a lot.
The truth is that as humans having a human experience, we all grow physically older as each day / year goes by; we go from being ‘children’ to ‘adults’. However, on a psychological level we have to ask ourselves whether this is really ‘adulthood’, and furthermore, what ‘adulthood’ actually means. Whilst all of us are on our own very individual journeys of healing, we can experience similar obstacles that will determine how far we go with our growth. These obstacles are that ‘adulthood’, or simply just our growth, hinges on accepting, and taking responsibility for our own inner child. On acknowledging this very real space within us. What can happen for so many of us, is that our inner child can often be rejected or completely abandoned. We are told by society from such a young age to ‘grow up’, and that in order for us to become ‘adults’ our inner child, that can represent our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness, must be stifled and put away. So we do just that, not knowing that in doing so we can also be putting away any accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers, which in turn can continue to play out for us throughout our lives.
You see, we can carry this idea that we are separate from our inner child, that this is a past experience; I understood for a while that if I could work on myself now, as my adult self, in my adult body, I would get to a place that I no longer blamed some of the circumstances of the past for which I was holding on to, potentially hindering my growth and stopping me from truly moving forward. But the part that I wasn’t acknowledging was the yearning part of my soul that was the inner child within me; what was it that they were still searching for?
For a moment I would like you to imagine that time doesn’t exist. And instead welcome the idea that these experiences of the past, with our inner child, that they are actually happening for you and to you, right now. Because here is the thing – your inner child is very much a part of your consciousness, and a part of your life, and you are able to access and nurture them whenever you want to. They are not separate from you, they are a part of you. Tuning in this very real place within you where your inner child exists, you can ask them what it is that they are still in need of. Is it more nurturing, more love, more stability? Maybe it’s more freedom, more room to explore themselves, or express themselves.
A lot of your growth is determined by how you go about acknowledging and honouring this space within yourself. Don’t fear it, explore it.
(Beautiful image by @rachday_ , find her on Instagram here)