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When was the last time

that you let your edges blur,

escaping the whir

and the purr of the mind,

took the time to tune in

to truly unwind.

To step forth into your world

with more kindness,

more space,

more expansion

more depth,

and all with less haste.

We get stuck in these spots

where life seems to hide

with our dreams over there

adrift with the tide.

But you can call it on back,

with vision and trust,

let the universe hold you,

for this is a must.

Be guided back to still

to space and to calm

and let life wash on in,

let yourself disarm.

Releasing the chains,

the armour,

the cladding,

for opening your heart

will entail some cracking.

That peace that you seek, 

lives where your life did begin,

in the ebb and the flow

of that breath coming in.

Look down at that key

that you hold in your hand,

tune into your heart,

and let it expand.

Your life is within you,

and this is your quest,

to remember this, dear friend,

that to open that chest,

be silent and still

so that you can see,

that to come back to yourself,

you simply must be.

Emma Barfield xoxo

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“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate” – Carl Jung

When was the last time you were able to truly sit with yourself? To feel quiet, to experience stillness? How long have you been just going, every day, with work, with family, with commitments, with ‘the stuff’? When was the last time you were able to put your hand on your heart, close your eyes and say the words to yourself ‘I am here?’

I am so excited to be able to bring to you this retreat, immersing ourselves into the world of yin, exploring the deeper parts of ourselves, feeling what it is to rest, finding some quiet, ready to truly create the space within ourselves and thus the capacity to receive all that 2019 has to offer.

Join me for this three night restorative retreat in the Peak District, England, surrounded by beautiful rolling countryside and all of the grounding energy that the heart of England has to offer.Screen Shot 2018-05-15 at 10.38.02

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Each day we will be enjoying two beautiful yoga classes, workshops, three delicious plant based meals and lots of nourishing free time, with the option to take some wintery walks (or just curl up and read a book by the fire).

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All of the beautiful rooms in this place come with double beds and ensuites, and there will be plenty of sofa space for you to wrap up in a blanket and soak up all of the goodness of Yin.

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We are so blessed to have all of our meals lovingly prepared each day by the beautiful Tamsin (@cupfulofkale) – if plant based gave big comforting hugs, this is the vibe with this beauty!

We will be setting our intentions for the year and learning about recognising and working through our blockages, learning how we can start learning to let go and tune in to the deeper most parts of ourselves, working towards fine tuning our alignment.

“A dream without alignment is like getting into a paddle boat without the paddle” – Emma Barfield

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The weekend will look a little like this:

Rough Timetable

11th Jan:

4pm arrival, welcome, show around and settle in
5pm opening circle
5.30-7pm yin yoga
7.30pm delicious vegetarian dinner
gratitude circle

12th Jan:

7am-9am morning flow yoga
9am breakfast
free time / winter walks in the surrounding peaks / reading time
3pm manifesting / intentions workshop
light snack
6-7.30pm yin yoga and yoga nidra
8pm dinner
movie night

13th Jan:

7am-9am morning flow yoga
9am breakfast
free time / winter walks in the surrounding peaks / reading time
3pm vegan chocolate workshop
light snack
6-7.30pm yin yoga and yoga nidra
8pm dinner
movie night

14th Jan:

7am – 9am morning flow yoga + closing circle
9am breakfast
11am departure

 

Would absolutely LOVE to share this magic with you.

Whats included:

3 nights luxury accomodation

2 x yoga classes per day

1 x workshop per day

1 x raw chocolate workshop with Tamsin

All plant based food and drinks (3 meals per day)

Price:

Private Room : £575pp

Sharing the room : £425pp

All rooms come with a beautiful double bed and en suite

Not included:

Transport to the Peaks 🙂

 

 

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LET’S TALK ABOUT SWEAT BABY  (and you know, this picture of me in reverse warrior is relevant to this topic because my armpits are all up in my face).

I love a good chat about armpits. The health of this area (especially for women), is something that we should all be open about, for learning more about and sharing with each other. There are a lot of things going on in this space, a lot of lymph nodes here for a start. I want to break down and debunk a few of the misconceptions we have around body odour, flow, and sweat because I truly believe that a crucial gateway to getting back into flow with your body starts with those pits!

Sweat vs Body Odour

News flash: we are MEANT to sweat. Our bodies are incredibly intelligent and use this mechanism to eradicate toxins, bacteria, everything and we can tell a hella lot about our sweat and different scents of body odour. I remember when I was about 18 and wanting to train in acupuncture and went to a few open day lectures in London where we were talking about learning to smell illnesses. I remember thinking that was quite a radical statement back then and was fascinated by this idea, but now I use it on myself and am getting pretty good at self diagnosing (if I do say so myself). If you have children, have you ever noticed a slightly metallic scent on their breathe when they’re coming down with a cold? Likewise, if you’re female reading this, you’ll probably notice a heavier body odour when you are menstruating compared to when you are not (and no it’s not because you are sweating more). I would really recommend you checking out a book called The Hidden Messages in Water, showing you the different compositions in tear drops in the body when crying with laughter, grief, with pain. They’re all different. (Incredible). And as we know, as humans we are mostly made up of water (even more of a reason for you to get savvy with the water that you’re supplying yourself with, get as alkaline as possible – I’m actually going to do a separate post on this because I’ll go on for yonks otherwise), in short, we are so much more than just ‘bricks and mortar’.

First things first. ‘BO” isn’t bad. Body Odour is inevitable because it is a by product of your sweat, which let’s, again, reiterate, is NATURAL. In short, ‘BO’ it is an accumulation of stale sweat on the skin (and will vary in the odour dependant on what is going on in your body at any time). To keep on top of body odour of course we shower, we wash it off – this should be exactly what we do to our armpits! We would never think of taking a product and caking our entire body in it to stop us from sweating, right, as that would seem pretty weird / unnatural. It’s just become the norm to do this to our under arms. Let’s change this guys. Seriously.

A good re-frame for you is every time you now see the words ‘anti-perspirant’, maybe change it to read ‘anti-sweat’ – you’re literally picking up an anti – sweat device. ANTI SWEAT. You are telling your body that you don’t want it to sweat. To flow. To do it’s job. What do you think happens when you stop this flow? (This is rhetorical, you can do your own research). But think about it.

‘BO’. B.O. Body Odour. The odour of MY body. When did this become such a thing to be embarrassed about? Honestly. Change this. I spend a lot of time around sweat, most of my day actually, I sweat, I work out, I work around other people that are sweating and working out. It’s just not even something that I think about negatively any more. I appreciate now with my work it could be deemed more accepted to smell a little funky whilst in yoga gear, but when I was working in an office / retail I would work around it by learning to getting better at staying fresh and changing up my routine. It would just mean maybe a few more minutes in the bathroom just to splash a little water under my armpits – really not a big deal.

Making the Change

When making the switch from conventional deodorant to natural you need to give your body a little leeway. Too often I hear people tell me ‘that natural deodorant doesn’t ‘work’, I smell of ‘BO’ after an hour or so…’. Let’s break down what ‘work’ means. If you are asking of your natural product that is working in harmony with your body to STOP you from sweating, then no in this sense they are not going to ‘work’. However, if you are asking of your natural product that is working in harmony with your body and ALLOWING you to sweat and flow that you would like to smell fresh whilst doing so, then yes, now your natural product will ‘work’. This is because the idea with a natural product is that they work to neutralise the scent coming off of your body, and not stop the sweat altogether like conventional products.

However, this ‘work’ isn’t going to happen over night. Ask yourself, how long have you been using conventional deodorant for? For most it’s probably since hitting puberty, so do the maths! Be gentle with yourself, it may take a little time to recalibrate. For around three years now I’ve only used natural deodorant and in the beginning I was noticing a lot more ‘BO’ as my body was trying to adjust to the new found flow through my pits. But now I honestly can say that I never smell (now is the time to tell me if you hang out with me and think I pong, apparently you can’t smell your own sweat!). My body has completely adapted and I’ve created an entire new routine and found products that work for me, and also checked in with what ‘BO’ actual is. If anything I actually found that I used to have a lot more ‘BO’ when using conventional deodorants than I do now (maybe my body was having to work harder to get rid of toxins?). But really, I remember back in the day when I was almost obsessed with deodorant (the panic if you leave the house without it, right? ‘BUT WHAT IF I SMELL?!’). I can honestly tell you that you just don’t need that kind of paranoia in your life. Really, you don’t. You can let it go. 🙂

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Real talk though, unless I lived like the guys in Wanderlust (if you have not watched this movie, please do its fabulously funny), I do like to smell beautiful. My favourite natural armpit aiders that keep my armpits healthy and smelling beautiful are;

PitRok – Literally go every where with this badboy. They are odourless but work to neutralise any smells from your sweat as it comes out of your body. I have had the same PitRok crystal now for nearly a year (no joke!!), they last for freakin ever I swear! You just need a little water to run the crystal under and then use it under your armpit like you would a regular roll on.

Neals Yard Remedies – their Peppermint and Lime roll on is so deliciously zesty and fresh, the Rose and Geranium roll on is beautifully feminine and great for that time of the month (rose and geranium are great for balancing hormones).

Weleda – the rose spray is beautiful, again so balancing and fresh.

MYO – you can also whip up your own natural deodorant mixing a little BiCarb, coconut oil and a few drops of essential oil to rub under your arms. I’ve never tried it as my routine works super for me but I have a lot of friends that do this.

I really hope this inspires you to consider moving over to a more natural way of caring for your armpits. No part of you is to be embarrassed of, or meant to be held back in any way. You are here to express yourself, your full self.

For those of you that are already well on your way to learning more about flow and expression throughout the body, I’d like to offer you the idea that these things, as seemingly basic as using an anti-perspirant deodorant, are all things that take us away from the essence of who we truly are – essence in the sense of smell AND sense of being. When we look more at the feminine energy, or shakti, and where that resides for us in the body, it begs to offer no end of discussion around blockages in this area when we are busy every day in our basic ‘care’ routines blocking this very thing.

Find your flow. Find your wild. (And find yourself some natural ‘deodorant’).

If you want to chat more on this and if you have anything to add, please feel free to pop me a message.

Love Emma xoxo

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When I speak to people about emotional healing, and share parts of my own journey with them, the topic of the relationship that we have with our inner child surfaces a lot.

The truth is that as humans having a human experience, we all grow physically older as each day / year goes by; we go from being ‘children’ to ‘adults’. However, on a psychological level we have to ask ourselves whether this is really ‘adulthood’, and furthermore, what ‘adulthood’ actually means.  Whilst all of us are on our own very individual journeys of healing, we can experience similar obstacles that will determine how far we go with our growth. These obstacles are that ‘adulthood’, or simply just our growth, hinges on accepting, and taking responsibility for our own inner child. On acknowledging this very real space within us. What can happen for so many of us, is that our inner child can often be rejected or completely abandoned. We are told by society from such a young age to ‘grow up’, and that in order for us to become ‘adults’ our inner child, that can represent our child-like capacity for innocence, wonder, awe, joy, sensitivity and playfulness, must be stifled and put away. So we do just that, not knowing that in doing so we can also be putting away any accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears and angers, which in turn can continue to play out for us throughout our lives.

You see, we can carry this idea that we are separate from our inner child, that this is a past experience;  I understood for a while that if I could work on myself now, as my adult self, in my adult body, I would get to a place that I no longer blamed some of the circumstances of the past for which I was holding on to, potentially hindering my growth and stopping me from truly moving forward. But the part that I wasn’t acknowledging was the yearning part of my soul that was the inner child within me; what was it that they were still searching for?

For a moment I would like you to imagine that time doesn’t exist. And instead welcome the idea that these experiences of the past, with our inner child, that they are actually happening for you and to you, right now. Because here is the thing – your inner child is very much a part of your consciousness, and a part of your life, and you are able to access and nurture them whenever you want to. They are not separate from you, they are a part of you. Tuning in this very real place within you where your inner child exists, you can ask them what it is that they are still in need of. Is it more nurturing, more love, more stability? Maybe it’s more freedom, more room to explore themselves, or express themselves.

A lot of your growth is determined by how you go about acknowledging and honouring this space within yourself. Don’t fear it, explore it.

Emma

xoxo

(Beautiful image by @rachday_ , find her on Instagram here)

 

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For as long as I can remember, I would inadvertently get an overwhelming sense of ‘homesickness’ at seemingly random times in my life. I guess to start with, it’s probably best to distinguish what ‘homesickness’ is, and like all emotions, we will all have different experiences, but for me and maybe for you it’s a feeling deep within my stomach, making me feel physically a little sick, and experiencing an emotional response likened to mild anxiety, an overall sense of  ‘just wanting to be at home’. Possibly the earliest signs of this experience are when we are children, maybe staying away for the first time, maybe at a sleep over with our friends or a school trip away. We can associate this feeling of ‘homesickness’ to that of being away from our family home, or maybe being away from the people that we feel most ‘at home’ with, overall just the immense feeling of discomfort at the idea of being taken away from that space where we feel the safest, the most secure, nurtured, the most taken care of.

So what happens when you suddenly lose this space called ‘home’, where you are suddenly carted into an experience where you’re unsure where you can or should truly call ‘home’, not only losing your familiar surroundings, but also the people in them. How does this sudden loss of identity, (and also a potential new adopted identity of not feeling good enough to be loved or accepted) play out for you? We seek it. We ask for it. We look for it in every place that we can find it. And if left unaware of what the micro messages are can often keep perpetuating the same feelings thus creating more of the same experience for the rest of our lives. (That’s a whole other post).

As a teen, I lived in various different houses, some family members, some not until the age of 18 where I met my first serious partner and moved in with him after a few short months. His family welcomed me with open arms and I remember saying even then, ‘I just really feel at home here’ because to me at the time, the idea of what a home should offer, had, I guess, been ‘ticked off’. Loving home, loving people, finally a bit of peace. It had made me feel for the first time in a long time that I should finally be able to just breathe, to relax, and all of this because I was finally in a ‘home’ environment – the external environment was ‘ideal’.

However, during this time I would still every now and then get this overwhelming sense of homesickness. When I would truly connect though I started recognising that it was cropping up at pretty prominent times, like when I would connect in with the truth that the relationship I was in wasn’t right, or maybe the start of a new job that I hadn’t truly aligned with (this happened a lot), or sometimes just in the dead of the night when I was unable to sleep, often crippled with loneliness and a sense that I was ready for a new change. This same sense would crop up and I would feel confused as to what it was I was yearning for. ‘Why homesickness?’ I would think. ‘I’m finally in a safe home environment with people that accept me,  so what are you telling me’. I chose instead to listen to what it was that this sense was bringing up for me. And broken down, of course, ‘homesickness’ is the sense that you’re away from home. And that’s when it really hit me. I wasn’t at home. And it was nothing to do with a building, or the people in the building. This was about me. Just me. It always had been, and it always will be. I wasn’t feeling safe, secure, nurtured, loved, accepted – within myself. I was feeling lost. I was wandering around outside of myself, not yet ‘at home’ with who I was, what I was doing, where I was going. In short, I was absolutely disconnected from my life, from my true purpose. My heart just wasn’t in the life I was living. It’s when I knew that things needed to change.

I think it’s often too easy, in fact a lot of the time we have an unconscious programming, to seek advise and acceptance from outside of ourselves. But truly, we know the answers all along if only we can learn to listen. The revelation to me that I was missing a feeling of being unconditionally loved, of being truly nurtured, accepted, the feeling of being secure, from within myself and not from other people, was the most empowering thought I’d really ever entertained. I didn’t have to be dependent on something outsourced to make me feel these things. I was and am the creator of my life, and by changing the way that I was internalising my experiences would of course change my entire life experience.

Through yoga and with the fire within myself, a fire that I absolutely know that you too possess,  I truly was able to acknowledge that I didn’t have to wait for anyone or anywhere to hold that space for me. I could hold that space for me. That space of acceptance, of peace, of love and security, of trust and of stability. All of those feelings and ideologies we associate with a loving home, and being around a loving family. Of course I am learning every single day, through every single experience and every single person that I come into contact with, and with each expansion I am learning to love and trust the process a little more.

Check in with your messages. What do they mean for you? For the topic of this blog post, if you ever find that you experience this sense of ‘homesickness’, check in and journal until your hearts content to hone in on the specifics of what you’re reaching for at that time in your life. What are you searching for?

“What you seek is seeking you – Rumi”

Home is where your heart is.

Love and light,

Emma

xoxo

 

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